By Shawn McQueen, Mentor for Two-Brain Group Coaching Course
Across my 10 years of coaching I’ve encountered many Coaches. There was this crossroads along my journey where it became glaringly clear of the separation between the “bad” coach and the “good” coach.
The bad coach was always reactive and impulsive with his emotions. If a member challenged him, he’d react in a manner that was unprofessional, immature, and immediate. It felt like he always needed the upper hand, the victory, and no one could challenge or even raz him.
The good coach though never seemed to let those moments affect his state of mind or actions. He always seemed in complete control of himself and his reactions. I even once asked him, “it never seems like what they say can phase you, is that true?”He said to me, “sometimes it does of course, but most of the time I don’t allow it to. As a leader people will continually test you to see where you stand, what buttons actually push you. I have a responsibility to discipline my own emotions and in doing that, they’ll continue to follow my lead without doubting me because they know I’m solid.” I thought to myself how profound his awareness of his role and his actions were.
The bad coach and the good coach got along great most of the time, sharing in a common bond of the love of helping others. They loved the feeling of contributing to a greater good. Making the world a better place by the impact a Coach can have in people’s lives. The more time they spent together though the more obvious the differences became.
The good Coach would come to every 1:1 or group class prepared, having written a lesson plan for every session. He always wore his coaches shirt when coaching.
The bad coach didn’t see the value in writing a lesson plan, said “it’s all in my head,” and would essentially wing it out on the floor. Sometimes he’d do a great job and sometimes he’d do a really poor job. He was inconsistent at best. He liked to coach in a muscle shirt, feeling he didn’t need to wear his coaching shirt all the time and would rather show off his awesome arms. He would even say “it’s too hot for a t-shirt.”
These two coaches couldn’t be any different.
However, their contrast would eventually come to a head.
Stay tuned for Part 2.